Everyone has heard their fair share of stories about ADD ADHD teenagers. And, indeed, being the parent of such teens has its challenges.
As parents of ADD/ADHD teens, you are uniquely qualified to discover and nurture your child or teenager's natural gifts and talents. In fact, it is likely that many of their traits will seem strangely familiar.
My eldest daughter had ADD that went undiagnosed throughout school. Like most teenagers with ADD or ADHD, she had difficulty following multiple steps without getting distracted before she had completed all of them.
When dealing with ADD ADHD teenagers and their unconventional way of thinking, it helps to look 'outside the box' for insight. Newton's third law of motion states that for every action (force) in nature there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Just as there are usually certain consistent traits that challenge ADD/ADHD kids, there are certain consistent traits that endow them with abilities that most of their peers lack.
In my daughter's case, the ADD that made it hard for her to transition from one topic to another, allowed her to process things more deeply and thoroughly.
The traits that had her daydreaming in class, allowed her to become a great writer and blessed her with a quick wit and quirky sense of humor.
Those qualities that tried my once abundant patience are the same ones that make her a very independent, creative, innovative and successful businessperson today.
My middle daughter had a huge surplus of energy as a toddler. She was in perpetual motion and I couldn't take my eyes off her for more than two seconds at a time.
Today, she is a senior in college with a 3.9 grade point average, studying to teach elementary and special education. She still has a lot of energy and uses it to accomplish twice as much in half the time it would take a 'normal' person. That abundance of energy is an asset as she keeps up with a classroom of young kids.
My youngest daughter shows no signs of ADD/ADHD. But, she is the most stubborn person I've ever met. When she uses it in a positive way, it makes her very determined and steadfast. When it shows up as pigheadedness, that's a different story...
EVERY person has their challenges, just as everyone has something unique to them of value to share with the world. Look beyond whatever challenges face you today as the parent of an ADD/ADHD teen.
Envision a possible future where those same attributes may serve them well over the course of a lifetime, and channel your collective energy in that direction.
Like a sculptor, see their possibilities and help shape them into happy, capable, decent adults.
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